Relationship problems..Advice please?

He is not dad material. He cares about you and the baby (buys things) but not enough to watch her and let you get some decompression time for yourself. And thats his choice. If you cant deal with it (and sounds like you cant) start looking for something different. Kids add a whole new complication to relationships and not everyone is able to deal with it, even if they want to. Sounds like a decent guy who just isnt ready for that level of responsibility.